It’s a game, Dude. A game of hide and seek played between you and your identity…

The “What you will find”… when you find what you’re looking for…

It’s an inside-out game many (most?) of us play outside-in.

When you can be a certain way, in the face of what your experience looks like, you can have it any way you want. And do that at will.

You have learned how to be… a certain way… and that’s become how you approach life and then deal with it.

In order to conserve energy, your “system” has created automations that control all your autonomic bodily functions, and by the time you’re in your thirties, upwards of ninety-plus percent of your behavior, attitude, and the style in which you do the “being a human” thing. Including your thinking, feelings, and actions…

But there’s more to it than that…

What’s actually become automated from a personality or identity “way of being” – is the questions you ask and the answers that you have for those questions that precede your decisions and actions, or inaction, as it were.

What you’re looking for, actually, is a different way to speak with yourself… and, if you learn what that exactly is, and how it actually works… AND THEN DOOOOO EEEEEEET, your life will change drastically, without much effort, and it happens fairly rapidly.

Yep. I hear you. “Self-talk.” – “Inner dialog…” you’ve addressed it… Cool program, Dude.

Course, it’s so simple that many of us struggle with leaving it be. We got to muddle it up, fuck with it, twist it around, and screw it into complexity… cuz, suffisticated and stuff.

And, we’ve got our reasons… automated, of course…

Maybe we don’t think we deserve to have the good life…

…haven’t earned it…

shouldn’t have that because it might mean others will have less…

Or one of my favorites: if we do, people may think one way or another about us… how we got it, what kind of a bad man might we be, that sorta shit.

Some of us think we need permission.

Others think it can’t possibly work that way, and some imaginary deity wants us to live like peasants and feel guilty for finding pleasure where we do…

We’re fucking weird.

It’s right there. Right there!

You want to feel a certain way, you find areas of your life that you wish were different somehow, and then you tell yourself stories, sad ones, scary ones, disempowering ones, bullshit ones… until you feel the opposite of what you want.

And then in that place, that state of being, the thoughts and feelings, and how you act when you’re thinking and feeling like that, you run yourself in circles trying to figure out how to fix it…

Sound about right?

Dude, if you would simply decide how you want to feel, describe that to yourself, learn how to feel that way by practicing it… and tell yourself those stories… You will learn how to play that character, and your external world will begin to match that internal world.

“Nopity nope nope. It don’t work like that…”

“Um, are you sure? I’ve tried that before…”

“OK, fine! I’ll TRY it…” (a wise ol’ fucker once said, “There is no try, only do.” – wonder what he meant by that…)

You can tell yourself whatever story you want… my reply will remain: ‘Cool program, Dude.’

What you’re looking for is how to feel the way you want.

Yes, there’s a bit more to it than that. Sitting on your couch, getting yourself into the state of driving that Mustang, smelling the new car smell, hearing the engine roar, and feeling the wind in your hair will only get you so far.

If your actions don’t align with the thinking and the feeling, you’re gonna call bullshit on yourself and have yet another reason to keep having what you don’t want. It’s not a secret, though they made millions on that flick…

…what you want is to have reasons to view yourself and your life, and how you’re going about it, how you’re being… AND feel the way you want to feel (which, other than the few of us sadistic bastards), fucking great about “It” – you, your life, and how you’re the one DOING it.

And, yes, part of that is in also having the trophies… they are part of the PROOF.

We need proof that we’re “getting there…” which is used in the “talking yourself into it” bit…

We’ll get there… if you’re coming…

PS Think of the areas of your life that you’re killing it in (strange way to say, “Hey, I’m really successful in ____ area of my life…” don’t ya think? – we’ll come back to that, it’s important…) and notice how you talk about it, what kind of energy you put into it, how you feel when you think about it. Interesting, isn’t it? You’re already doing it… If you only knew exactly what you’re doing and how it actually worked, you could have it any way you wanted it to be.