What are you seeking?

Why are you here, reading this page?

What are you looking for, hoping to find, trying to figure out?

A solution to something…

An answer? The answers?

A new way to… solve problems?

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We’re wired to seek.

And we’ve been trained, conditioned, and programmed to solve problems.

A fantastic skill to possess.

But we’re also wired for “more, better, faster, & different.”

However, solving problems and creating an outcome aren’t always the same thing.

Might not seem like a big deal, but if you’re always seeking problems to solve… guess what you’re always focused on? Problems.

And since we’re always seeking “more, better, faster, and different…” it doesn’t take a genius to realize that as we get better at solving problems, we become even more adept at creating larger, more complex problems to solve. Know what I mean?

We’ll call that an “occupational hazard.”

We tend to do weird shit to keep ourselves occupied playing these second or third-tier games instead of addressing the real game at hand, The Game of Self.

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What we’re really after, though, people like us, is understanding.

We want to know how this thing we call “being” works and how to make it work in our favor. Consciously creating our experience.

Regardless of the current state of your life right now, you’re seeking something, a better “this,” a bigger “that,” more of something, less of something else.

It’s our nature to straddle the lines of this paradox, wanting something, getting it, wanting something different.

When we’re unaware of this paradox, or we mismanage it, we experience lack and chase things outside of us, hoping that catching them will fill us up.

That pursuit eventually leads to self-destruction… always seeking something “else.”

You’ve got the life you have, wanting it to be different in some way.

Never content for long.

The satisfaction of achievement fades almost as soon as it’s captured.

This paradox causes many of us to feel dissatisfied, unfulfilled, hollow, even… or downright frustrated.

Like, somehow, we never get “there.”

Almost, but not quite.

It doesn’t have to be that way, though…

Using this paradox as a catalyst to direct “happiness” and leveraging your natural drive to be more, have more, and do more while always feeling you already ARE is just a perspective shift.

Getting “there” wherever, whatever that means to you is attainable (read: you, in fact, CAN get what you want and HAVE the satisfaction of getting it)…

Just, maybe not the way you’ve been going about it.

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We’re wired to explore.

Remember being a little kid? Exploring your neighborhood or Grandma’s backyard? Or the campsite your family used to go to… or the creek behind your school…

Remember when life seemed magical, new, and amazing? Do you remember being in awe of it all? The wonderment you felt about the great big world?

That “You” didn’t go anywhere… it was just replaced by a series of perspectives about the world that make it look like “not the awesome” world it is.

You’ve got stories. Programming. Conditioning… you’ve been trained NOT to be the curious little kid on a treasure hunt…

You’ve been taught to believe it’s not magical, not wonderful, and that it’s hard, you’ve got to work hard, be perfect, life’s a bitch, get a helmet… and so on.

…what if you approached it differently?

Sure, the world is “Real,” and “REAL SHIT” happens…

But not near as much as we believe it does.

That “thing” looming over your head if you do or don’t do something just right…

It doesn’t exist except that you think it does, except that you believe it does… and, so, that’s what you tell yourself… and that’s how you make it REAL.

Yep. Life can be hard; people die, you’ll die, family members will get sick, a hurricane will blow in and destroy your home and your business… clowns will get elected, tyrants blow up innocent people… uh huh, all true.

And?

All manner of shit IS going to happen to you.

Acting like nothing is wrong and positively thinking your way into a blissed-out, stoned ape perspective isn’t what I’m talking about…

Ignorance isn’t bliss. It doesn’t matter if you didn’t see it. Stepping in dog shit has consequences… acting like there isn’t any in the yard won’t make it magically go away.

On the other hand… how much “shit” are you adding on top of all that based on how you’re “being” and how you’re participating as you encounter life?

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And we’re wired for adventure.

When life becomes an adventure again, something shifts.

We begin to consciously create our own experiences and do so intentionally.

There seems to be some magic involved when we seek understanding, explore what that could mean, and begin taking adventures in our daily lives…

There seems to be something to the state of awe and wonderment that allows for creation, almost in a magical, “How the fuck did he do that???” kind of way.

This level of creation seems easy to slip into when we’re approaching life in a childlike “Everything is sooooo fucking amazing…!” kind of way.

It also tends towards an upswing momentum. When life’s REALLY fucking sideways, it’s really hard to create better circumstances from that “state.”

And when you’re in the upswing, and life’s just falling into place in crazy awesome ways, it just flows easier and easier, more effortless, less “try” and more “let”…

Save for the inevitable “waiting for the other shoe to drop.” Which is our way of “learning” ourselves even deeper…

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The actual point?

Becoming your own guide.

Even if ONLY to yourself…

Get centered enough, learned enough, wise enough, and well-rounded enough… to be capable of leading yourself.

Before you can do much good for anyone else, you’ve got to learn how to guide yourself.

Fill your cup first, dude. It may seem selfish, but it’s damn hard pouring from an empty cup… and no one else wants the mud in the bottom of your cup.

Think about this for a minute:

For ages, we humans lived in small tribes, typically between 50 and 150…

You know what happens when you’ve built a tribe like that?

Generations of people spanning the age range. Babies, to the elderly (elders).

Guess what (almost) none of us have these days?

A dozen or so elders who know us, love us and have our ultimate best interests at heart.

Guess what we’re all “seeking”?

How to become an elder.

Your ideal identity. Think about it.

If/when you become your “utmost”… what does that mean? What would you be like? Who would you be?

You’d have knowledge, wisdom, experience… passed on to you, built upon by you, passed on by you.

Call it whatever you want. This is what’s actually driving us all mad, freaked out, anxious, chasing the wrong shit to fill this big empty hole… that we ALL have —

knowing that we don’t have a lineage of elders who KNOW what’s coming for us and can help prepare us for it… and feeling like we don’t know what the fuck we’re doing, even if only part of the time.

That’s what this is actually about…

…sorting ourselves out, feeling like we do in fact have our shit together, particularly when the shit hits the fan…

What we actually want is to feel capable… regardless of what’s happening.
Capable of dealing with whatever comes.

We also want to know how to stop shoveling shit on ourselves and others… so there’s less “shit” to deal with in the first place.